No not quite, its shooting yourself in a the foot a bit, you miss out on all the value, or all the butterflies.  I'm not a typical Maledom for scene play. I work mostly with Women, their minds are marvellous, trans girls and with couples. This is a journey we go on, together, only you will know how long. In traditional life coaching, one session a week is normal, over time every 2  weeks and then after months, once a month, or as needed. But ask yourself WHY you are choosing this exciting version. If you know this,  we focus sooner on your needs and what value you bring into your life, your Self. Ideally plan for at 8 or 16 sessions, weekly if possible, soon enough we will know if this journey is valuable to you. If you show up, For YOU.  If after the first visit we find we are not relating well together, not a good fit, we simply terminate the schedule  arrangement and refund the balance. 

Absolutely not. I may live a BDSM lifestyle and love what I do, working with people, but I am not interested in having sex with anyone. This is a kink friendly sexy Hot paradigm yes, and yet a very real form of accountability guidance, structured dominance with purpose, plenty bits of mind play fantasy, yet so very real. Together we seek real results in a safe confidential container of trust, feeling safe and empowered, to be heard, to be seen, to be real, to BE YOU. Yes, there will be punishment and pain for failure to commit to our journey together, and there will be oh-so-good rewards of joy, bliss and fulfilment in transformation too. We may grow very close together, but this is not at all about sex.  You gain access to me, my time, my insight, and dedication to maintaining your structure and vested in your successes and patching your scraped knee during failures, my assistance along your journey to the new you, and then some.  Rewards are earned, so is punishment. 

That depends on you. Unless you have family or other people to hide marks from, yes, marks, lines even small bruises are normal, unless you specify otherwise, in which case discipline and punishment will be of non-marking nature. So show up committed and serious, and complete your tasks on time. 

Before our first visit, we go through some "get-to-know a little about you" checklists, look at your experience in bdsm / kink, if any, it's perfectly good if you have none, we see if and how this format of self-work will suit your personality, and then  based on these anonymous questions, you will receive a task or two as homework to bring to your first visit. Based on your sincerity and commitment to yourself, we will start a journey together, or, if you don't take this seriously,  we terminate immediately. I will not have my time wasted or be vexed. Hmm, Just NO! Its best to plan your first session as 2 hours. Thereafter 60 or 90 minutes per visit. 

Yes, I do work with couples, or one person of the couple, but with intent FOR the couple. When couples find kink Hot, but have no idea how to start, or get better, not the technical stuff, that can be learned near anywhere, but the practice, and much more important, the mind-space, having the freedom, Taking the freedom to take control, own their innate power energy, or surrender it to their partner, whether one wants to be sub, the other dom, or domme.  There are few good subs and fewer good Doms, and even fewer Dommes. If a couple wants to enter a Master/slave dynamic, that is an entirely different world than Dom/sub or top/bottom. There are few things more disappointing than  desperately craving to feel and experience one's partner taking control, own the space, and  primally possessing their sub or slave partner, when its flat, empty, fake, hesitant, awkward,  unnatural and reeking of desperacy.  If only there was a school people could go to and learn these inner energies, but seems everyone in kink is stuck on the basics of whacking another person and that is supposed to be profoundly fulfilling. People just don't know what they don't know. Once in a while, a sincere couple, or one of the couple, feels the urgency of learning and getting a hang on this power exchange stuff, so they can dom or own their partner in every possibly beautiful loving fulfilling way, as a chosen lifestyle possibly. There can be nothing better. A sincere couple ready to learn and be guided without ego, I am so passionate about M/s relationships, I hacve always just done it as a service to the kink community. But time is tight, so, being available to couples is at a real premium. Not money, just ... I shan't' waste my time, that's my one rule. Sincerity.  Oh, and cleanliness. 

Sorry boys, I am straight. But I can still love you as a human being. I don't do play scenes with men for the sake of scening, or play time.  I will however accept a gay man as an "accountability coach" client. But its about the earnest sincere self-growth work, not getting off on kinks. Think strict disciplinarian. Doesn't work so well with gay doms, I'm not into ego battle struggles. I'm here to help you with the insides, not satisfy your kinks. If you need someone to connect with and talk to about your out there kinks too, again, coaching dom, we can talk, even mete out punishment, but satisfy your playtime kinks elsewhere. I hope this is clear, I am nobody's fuck toy. I might consider special requests like keyholding or genuine findom fetish, its not my thing, but for some, it is a very real fetish. So, maybe. I am about authentic D/s and M/s.  Don't ask me to top a scene, I do not understand that reality, or its why's much. 

Important notes:  I have no time for useless human beings. Or pathetic ones.  Go see a shrink.

I am a totally calm, quiet, kind, generous, understanding, healing human being. 20 odd years in energy healing space too. I have good intuition, or clair-sentience if you know what that is. I seldom notice the external of the human, before I look inside and see their divinity, I see the hurt and pain but also the wonderous being of Light inside. And the struggle. Only then might I notice the outside, the container of the Spirit. Your eyes, hair, the movements in your face, posture, I see the littles inside and the warriors who guard them, the parents who do better, or try so hard to, I see the you of you. And for some it is a bit disconcerting to be "seen" and known, but I assure you resident of the universe, your bright  magnificence inside cannot be hidden or dark or gone, it just doesn't work that way, we all just carry things to shield us from life, it is great too, but damn does it leave scars. Luckily, I LOVE scars.

Have walked a deeply searching spiritual journey my entire, there is near nothing I don't know a little something about. Except cults and stupid base foolish crap some humans keep themselves occupied with. If you are a flat earther, just , there. door, go.  

I always require  (demand) respect, courtesy, good manners,  honesty, authenticity, courage, pushing yourself further for me than you would for you, and truth, always the absolute hard truth. A white lie here is as serious as the death penalty. No.  And then extreme hygiene, I cringe at body hair, I'm a bit on the neurodivergent spectrum so come with quirks, bit of germophobe. And then hard no to selfish humans and arrogant humans, wont ever see my door, ever! If you are a narcissist of have been accused of it regularly, also, let's not waste each others time and hand out bad reviews. Hard no. There are others better suited to 'your' needs. 

I am not a shrink, nor a counsellor or licensed anything. I do not dispense medical or mental health advice. At best, I am a muse for you to think, discover yourself, and what drives you, I help you come up with what works for you, by you, uniquely you. I try to never dispense advice, but like sherlock homes, I dig for the truth till it stands firmly in the radiant sun. Then we decide together how best to deal with what we discover. 

Certainly. Everyone is welcome to engage one mail, I will respond when I can. Please do not abuse this slightly ajar door, it only ruins it for others.

you may email me on:  mkad AT tuta . io

Please do not be a disappointment, just be nice, be real, be you, I do not care to engage with your mask. And do make an effort, show sincerity.

One word emails like "hi" I won't just delete, Simply blacklist forever. Show up as You, FFS. And thank you for not being a dick. 

Technically, probably just Alien. 

But, yes, Male, a Man. Probably somewhat different than most you know.  And I like girls. Even girls with dicks, but girls inside, that's my jam. Women! And no, I do not want to faaak any of you, I so don't care for your bits, no matter how awesome you think they are and how 'men' want that. Demisexual here, so, it really doesn't impress me, your bits, your container.  It's 'You' which likely will intrigue me. 

Women, really. But Women also have their girls inside. Isn't it tremendous how Women come into their own, usually around 40-ish, when they choose to step out of society's BS and just own and BE themselves, all of it, the good, bad, beautiful, ugly, the joy, the pain, all of it, so faakin authentically Real! 

Women, really are spectacular, all of them! 

Sorry guys, you are surely awesome too, but my appreciation is for the feminine, the goddess energies, I really am one of your greatest fans, Ladies.    

Can I call you?   Never! 

Even if you do have my number, any unscheduled or pre approved call, especially drunk-dials, instant block!  I don't mind receiving a text, if it is important to talk, or we have scheduled for a conversation or have to schedule, ONLY TEXT! In fact, I prefer calling clients, when I am ready to, even if its a 3pm scheduled call, never call unless you received permission to call 30 seconds earlier. It's not because I'm a self entitled arse, I am, yes, but, can you imagine the 247 nightmare from random calls any time of day, when I am engaged in meetings or whatever. No. Sorry, immediate block, I absolutely demand you get permission immediately before any call. 

Remember, I am not your bought toy nor your emotional support animal. Nobody is entitled of anything. And I LOVE to drive this point home, brutally, mercilessly, so be nice, respectful, courteous. Just be a kind good human being. So easy. We can all do it. Seriously. 

I get remunerated for my time. Time with you, time to travel, time to be away from other businesses, family, personal life.  Not for  experiences, things, fun, services, or anything other than just my time. And how I spend it with whomever, my call. 

And I'm kind of privileged in that I get to choose whom I spend my time with. I so love digging into people and unearthing their gemstones. I don't even know my rates, you can ask my friend Sage who handles logistics for me, and so generously gave me a page on her website where sincere people can see my passion, that people are my passion. So, rates, no clue. Talk to your "Aunty Sage". 

1. Read every word on this page, especially all the Frequently Asked Questions, this block of red text headings and its answers.
2. Make contact with Sage on WhatsApp or booking form etc. and take it from there.